|This is what a gay condom looks like, according to google.|
At this point, we deduced that she wasn't trying to be rude, most likely cultural attitudes were at play.. Someone had probably told her that gay men needed stronger condoms (probably due to AIDS). It's crazy how marketing and cultural attitudes can creates myths like this. Everyone needs to protect themselves, it's not an orientation thing*.
So to reiterate, there are NO such thing as "gay" lube or "straight" condoms... And yes, I totally mentally face-palmed myself several times during this conversation. I'm no saint.
* Last time I checked, everyone was at risk for the same STI's. They are equal opportunity and do not differentiate.